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Hello guys 🥰 and welcome back to Feeling Good With Sofy! 🙂

In this article I will write about self-love❤️❤️ 🙂

Trigger Warning: this blog post contains some tough content, so if you are struggling with your own mental health❤️, if you are sensible (etcetera), it could be difficult for you to read it. Although while sharing my own story❤️i’m going to write tips to love yourself more😊❤️! so, It’s up to you 😊!

So, let’s begin 🙂 ❤️ First of all, you can find my very first article on this subject, on this link:  https://www.indiansavage.com/self-love-a-very-important-journey/

(I write also for Indian Savage Blog, founded by Margaret Dallospedale 🥰)

As I already mentioned in my very first self love article, I’ve been struggling for years with really loving myself❤️.  It’s still a struggle, I still have days or moments when I tell myself mean things but I am learning slowly to accept my beautiful self❤️. It’s a journey remember that, at least for me😊, what about you? 

Part of my struggles come from being surrounded, for far too long, most especially at high school, by toxic people. If you want to, no restrictions (do not forget it❤️), you can read my first article about this theme on this link: https://www.indiansavage.com/toxic-people-2/

Struggling to accept my body

I have been, since a very young age insecure (for other aspects), when I began high-school it got worse, I hit puberty and I started not to like so much my body, my face. My previous therapist, back then did not understand me from this point of view, she told me how lucky I was to have been born this way and that many girls would do so much to be like me (aesthetically). So, I didn’t have so much courage to tell someone else, I didn’t feel understood, I felt ashamed.

Still, I wanted to become a model. Even if I didn’t like me 100 %, I found hope, something to dream about, look forward ✨.

People at school made fun of me, of my appearance…

Many people I’ve met in the course of my life (in the past), have also influenced my mental health situation making me really feel wrong, ashamed of my own body.

I really thought that with the end of middle school (girls telling me how skinny I was) I would find more acceptance in high school but I was wrong, completely wrong.

I have frequented for five years a small, language high school. Mentally, I was already feeling bad, even more when I heard people in school, gossiping about me, around my back.

They would laught, joke, saying mean things like: she is too skinny, she is a skeleton, she has a strange face, and her nose?! Then, she has no breasts… bad comments increased, of course due to my willingness to become a model.

It’s really important to remember this: people who talk bad about others, are not satisfied with themselves.

At San Valentine’s day, (this year) I created a post on my Instagram 🥰saying: “It’s not selfish at all to love yourself first. If you cannot accept yourself first, then it becomes hard to love others.”

Modeling

Before I began modeling with my second and last model agency, they told me to become very fit, so for about three months I tried my best to be as in good shape as possible. At first, I was quite excited to have a goal but through time I began to put so much pressure on my body, I was working out almost everyday and then it started to become an obsession, as I continued working out I could just not see any improvements and I felt so disappointed, and if I saw another model who was fitter than me, my mood got really low. Not accepting really my body has also been the cause of my depression.

SELF-LOVE IS A JOURNEY, not a destination.

Embracing your own true self can be very difficult for you, but do not give up! For many of us it takes time, gentleness towards ourselves…You can start your journey right now, taking a stept, by telling yourself that maybe you need some help along the way, (for ex), and just that is already a lot!

Small steps

A reminder: learning to love yourself, be more comfortable in your own skin, does not happen overnight, at least for many of us, I believe😅❤️It involves continual growth, learning, and evolving as an individual.

Embracing self-love means being compassionate, gentle, patient with yourself, recognising your strengths and weaknesses, and understanding that it’s okay to make mistakes. It’s about prioritizing your well-being, setting boundaries, and taking the time to nurture your mind, body, and soul.

Self-love tips❤️:

• Take good care of your body: I love for ex. to listen to good music while scrubbing, mindfully my body gently and then applying a body lotion with a nice scent 💕.
• Listen to self-loving affirmations! During a trip in Sweden, I was feeling quite sad, so I began listening to a soothing voice telling mantras such as: I am worthy of loving myself deeply, I am purposeful… I listened on and on to it, while breathing deeply And that helped me to calm myself! 🙂
• Listen to your body: an ex. “Is your body tired? Do you feel anxious…?” Practice gentle exercise such as yoga or do some stretching! 💖
• Therapy, support from loved ones: finding people who support you truly is really important, these people could be a close family member, your therapist, your best friend (for ex.)

I hope you can take something away from this…❤️❤️

See you 😊

Love and Lightness ❤️✨

Sofia Lena

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