FeelingGoodWithSofy

Hi guys, in this feel good blog post, I talk about the importance of asking for help when you are in need, along with some of my life stories.

Trigger Warning: if you are somebody, who is battling personal mental helth issues (ex.) do not feel the need to read this article. I’m going to tell you some of my own struggles and tips along the journey. So, it’s totally up to you! ❤️❤️

My story…

I’ve been anxious, timourous since a young kid. I wouldn’t (really) tell the truth (many times) to my parents when I was preoccupied by something, I had a problem to resolve…because part of it, I was too embarassed, ashamed and not comfortable to tell the truth or otherwise I was way too afraid of the consequences for speaking up. So, I would end up struggling, all alone.

Silently struggling…

Sharing some of my personal battles…

I already had strong difficulties in math at primary school, I was very sensible (already back then) and when I learned that one of my teachers, whom I feared most, would become my mathematic teacher at the last year of elementary school, my nightmare came to life, because she was so strict and not patient with children like me.

So, I was 10 years old back then. This teacher made me cry so many times during lessons or I had to really force myself not to cry and that made me feel awful, and ashamed considering that there were other students watching and even though they didn’t laugh, I felt really humiliated and a total failure.

Her behaviour and approach was different with the other children with specific learning disorders. I really felt that she had something against me, for example she would scream at me, reprimand me when I was unable to pass a test or I was almost always the one who got called up to the chalkboard to do exercises…

Too afraid to ask for help

I started to lie a lot to my parents, telling them that I had stomach aches and at a certain point, due to many school absences, I had to talk to a therapist. This is the first time ever that I went to a psychologist. Unfortunately, she didn’t made me feel at ease, so I lied to her also. I felt powerless, I didn’t feel understood by practically anyone and a sense of weakness inside me grew stronger and stronger.

Asking for help, is a sign of strength! 🙂

There is no shame to ask for help, on the contrary, it’s a sign of strength and courage!

I am now learning slowly (thanks also to my current therapist❤️❤️ and other experts) to be more open and vulnerable with people whom I trust and even if the problem is still there to solve, someone else knows that too, so I do not have to “carry all the baggage” alone.

If you are somebody too who has gone through (or is going through) many difficult times in your life without being open with people you can trust, know that you are not alone❤️, there are other people too, who fight❤️. Holding (great) worries by yourself is not good at all for your mental wellbeing, when you seek support you do not fail, you get stronger 🙂

Some tips along your journey…

• Get proper help: try to find professional therapists, psychiatrists who you can rely on, who understand you seriously and help you through trying times.
• A good communication: having a clear communication with your family, therapist, partner, friends is fundament for understanding each other better! There have been several misunderstandings in my life with my family (for ex.) and that didn’t help me to feel better.
• Self Love affirmations: write down on your journal motivational words and repeate to yourself positive, self love affirmations which can help you strengthening yourself from moments of despair, such as I matter because I am loved and beautiful no matter my (current) circumstances!

Remember:

Your mental-health is important. If you are going through a difficult time, don’t hesitate to ask for help.

I truly hope that you can take something away from this article❤️

So much Love and Lightness ❤️✨

Sofia Lena 😊

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