FeelingGoodWithSofy

Hey everyone! My newest wellness article about healthy and toxic people is out now on my blog. ❤️

Trigger warning: If you’re struggling with mental health issues or you’re going through a rough patch in your life, this article might be difficult to read. On the other hand, this blog post also offers motivational insights, reflections and tips along the way! The decision to keep on reading is entirely yours. ❤️❤️

While we all deal with toxic people at some point, have you ever met so many that their negativity became overwhelming and made you feel unwell? If the answer is yes, then you’re not alone.❤️

In fact, I am one of many who has encountered and been surrounded by toxic, negative people for far too long.

Healthy People Vs. Toxic People

Healthy people, in my experience don’t talk badly about you under any circumstance. Instead, they are there for you, to help you, support you, and love you unconditionally for who you are. ❤️ Healthy people give you “good vibes”, as I like to call it. Their love and friendship are genuine and beautiful. Moreover, genuine people have positive attitudes. Their outlook could even inspire you to learn, grow, and thrive.

Crucial to remember…

No one is perfect; we are humans after all. We all have our trying moments in life, and it’s normal if your best friend for once acts unkindly toward you. However, a genuine best friend will apologize for having slipped.❤️

Toxic people, on the other side, drain your energy, are manipulative, talk badly about others, and can cause significant emotional harm in your life.

It’s worth noting…

Toxic people often feel the need to talk badly about others and spread bad vibes because they themselves don’t feel loved or good. For instance, if you were raised in a loving family with good, strong values, you’ll feel less of a need to cause harm to others.

Sharing a bit of my story…❤️

In my life, I have met more toxic people than healthy people. Even though it can feel strange or not true, this is the reality.

An important reminder: It’s often not your choice or your fault if you end up meeting toxic people, especially if you find yourself in environments like schools.

In fact, I didn’t choose to be surrounded by so many toxic classmates in high school, or even some professors.

Sharing some raw personal information…

In middle school, I experienced a bit of bullying (they would call me ‘skeleton,’ ‘skinny,’ and give me the middle finger), but it wasn’t until high school that I became an easy target for many of my peers.

For five years, I was in a small environment. The high school I attended was quite small, and I think that was one of the reasons why so many people there knew things about me that they shouldn’t have. Many of my classmates knew people from other classes, and that was how a lot of my personal information was spread to other people I didn’t even know, just by face and name.

For example, they started a rumor that I smelled bad, or that I had a crush on a guy. The most difficult thing was that they talked and laughed about me behind my back and pretended to be my friends.

Some thoughts and reflections…

Maybe you’re thinking: “Why didn’t you change schools?” The truth is I felt hopeless and too scared to change environments. I was so familiar with the one I was in, and even though I was bullied, I told myself to keep going because I had other uplifting thoughts, like my dream of becoming a model.

I told myself I just had to survive those years so I could then pursue my dream of becoming a model. I admit it wasn’t a healthy coping mechanism, but I felt too crushed to start over at a new school and I didn’t get the right professional help to navigate through those really hard times. I felt too weak because anxiety and depression were also hindering me from feeling calm and balanced.

You are not the problem❤️

Another important thing to acknowlede is that you are not the problem if you are or have been bullied.

When someone tells you things like you are too skinny, too long, too short, or not beautiful enough, it’s often due to their own insecurities. Many times, they are envious of something you have or the situation you are in. Instead of dealing with their own feelings, they project their negativity onto you with the need to hurt you and make you feel as badly as they do.

With that said, you have more than right to feel not okay if you are bullied. I know, it can be really challenging to deal with these kind of problems, but please do not be afraid to reach out for help. You deserve and have the right to have support.❤️

Your people will never leave you❤️

Never give up on findind people who make you feel truly valued, happy, and good. These are the people you can genuinely trust for help and support. They could be your closest family members, your therapist, or just a few friends. Remember, it’s not about the number of friends you have. It’s better to have a small group you can genuinely count on rather than a bunch you can’t rely on.

No matter what people may think of you, you are so much stronger than their opinions. You are beautiful, and you are genuinely worthy to have love in your life! ❤️

Much Love and Light ❤️✨

Sofia Lena 😊

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