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Hey everyone!😊

In this post, I’m going to talk about being kind towards yourself in any circumstance, but particularly when things are tough in your life. I’ll share some of my stories and also motivational tips. ❤️

Trigger warning: if you are someone who struggles with mental health then this article might be difficult to read. However, most of the article gives encouraging insights and tips along the way. The decision to keep reading is entirely yours!❤️❤️

In general, being kind towards yourself, is essential for building a healthier relationship with your own self.

Self-kindness is an act of love and something we should do every single day for our own wellbeing. Those acts don’t have to be big; simple things are enough, such as hydrating yourself properly, hugging yourself when you’ve done something difficult, or writing to yourself at the end of the day about how bravely you navigated the day.

You should be kind to yourself generally, and also during difficult times.

Learning to be kind to yourself can take time…

As this title clearly says, being kind towards yourself can take time, effort, and self-love. If that is also your case, do not give up. Sometimes, healing over a longer period of time can give you more positive surprises.

Don’t punish yourself for not yet being able to talk kindly to yourself. Try to be as understanding as possible, and don’t hesitate to seek external help. For example, do not reprimand yourself for not performing at work as you wished because you are ill. Some things take longer to master (or change), and self-kindness is one of them.❤️

Another important key to self-kindness is self-compassion.

Self compassion

Self-compassion teaches you to be self-loving and understanding, especially when things go wrong. It’s like treating yourself as you would treat your best friend. It means responding to your own pain with kindness, warmth, and support, instead of harsh judgement.

It’s a three-part commitment: Be kind (replace criticism with care), be human (remember everyone struggles), and be present (observe your painful feelings with balance, rather than ignoring them or letting them consume you).

Sharing a bit of my story…❤️

Like everyone, I have my struggles too, and being kind to myself is definitely one of them. I struggle less than before, but it still sticks with me and sometimes it’s really challenging.

I believe the main roots of my self-kindness struggle stem from past challenges, specifically struggling really hard in school and having a shy character that made me less open to opportunities like making friends.

Sharing an episode…

I remember one specific episode during a therapy session when I was 14. My mom had sent me back to my previous therapist, and I shared with her that I had spent the entire summer alone, without seeing any friends. She told me quite immediately that “it was not okay at all.” That response struck me deeply; I felt wrong and more uneasy than ever before.

More difficult factors…

I also believe that setting too many high expectations on myself, combined with being constantly bullied—especially in high school—contributed to me seeing myself with unkind eyes.

Self-acceptance, a journey…❤️

Being more loving and kind towards yourself can require lot of time. In fact, I like to call it a journey. It’s a journey toward: self-acceptance, embracing your true nature and making something special of it, and self-recovery.

When you give yourself permission to start over, that’s when healing begins. Remember, healing can also be a slow process; it does not happen overnight. Being kinder towards yourself can be painful and not that easy, but don’t give up. Everything takes its own time.

Try writing self-loving affirmations on post-it notes, or record a daily self-love act in your journal. Remember, it doesn’t have to be big. Keep in mind that sometimes you’ll feel more motivated than others—and that’s normal.❤️

Self-kindness is an important gesture that will bring more love into your life ❤️

Much Love and Light❤️✨

Sofia Lena😊

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