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It’s normal in today’s society to encounter unkind people wherever you go—which means literally in all environments. No matter what you do, how much energy you spend trying to get in tune with those people, there will always be someone who is not respectful towards you. Some people are simply not your type, and that’s okay. We are all so different. You could be the kindest and nicest person in the universe and still have people who treat you poorly and without respect.

In this article, we’ll be exploring this topic, with the purpose of tuning out the unkind, and, instead, welcoming and embracing supportive people—the ones who are kind towards you. Moreover, we will dive into the power of acceptance!

The Attribution Theory

Simply taking a stroll through a city brings you into contact with so many people, each with their own unique histories, joys, but also personal struggles and sorrows. You are just one of many, carrying your own life story while remaining unaware of the burdens others face, and vice versa.

For instance, when you enter a café, you might encounter a sympathetic bartender or an unkind one who sulks and fulfills your request without a smile. This person might be facing personal problems, or perhaps that is simply their nature. This example illustrates how different we all are; we cannot know the reasons behind a sulky face, even if the behaviour feels unprofessional or ungracious.

In essence, Attribution Theory shows us that a person’s rudeness is a snapshot of their own struggle, not a measurement of your value.

Tuning Out the “Unnecessary”

Once we acknowledge that we are usually not the cause behind an angry face or irritating behaviour, we can start to declutter the mind of “unnecessary dust”—like anger, irritation, or even the desire for revenge. I know it’s easier said than done, but try not to let your energy be consumed by anger or sadness when someone is unkind to you. You did nothing wrong; it’s not your choice to encounter unkind people. Instead, you can choose to smile and offer them some good vibes. 🙂

The Challenge of the Highly Sensitive Person

As a highly sensitive person, tuning out the unkind represents a significant challenge. I tend to read other people’s behaviours and words quite deeply—sometimes the energy is negative, and other times it’s positive. Because I process these interactions so intensely, I can easily become overwhelmed, sometimes even bringing tears to my eyes. If you’re someone who “feels everything,” you might relate to this too.❤️

Where Kindness is Essential

Even though there will always be people who are less than kind, I firmly believe that in certain environments—such as schools and hospitals—those who work there should truly learn patience. They should not be rude or unkind toward students and patients. Of course, being firm can be necessary at times, but rudeness is never justified.

When I was hospitalized last October for depression, there were some nurses who were not kind to me; one even screamed at me after a drip. Fortunately, I’m grateful that my psychiatrist didn’t find it acceptable either and had a word with that nurse.

Acceptance: Don’t Take It Personally

Acceptance does not mean we excuse bad behaviour; rather, we take a deep, calming breath in, and as we exhale, we let go of what made us uneasy and move forward. It’s also crucial not to take it personally; if someone didn’t behave correctly, it should not be your burden to carry—it is the other person’s problem, not yours. It’s normal if the feeling comes back, even if that can be hard sometimes; just try not to remain stuck in loops.

Focusing on Gentle Kindness

For every unkind person I’ve met, there is another—like my psychiatrist or a kind friend—who chooses to give me light instead of darkness. Use your energy toward “your people”—by that I mean the people who support you no matter what. These are the people you encounter on the streets who give you a warm smile, the ones who give you energy, a hug for extra motivation and comfort, and those who accept you for who you are and only want the best for you.

“I surround myself with the light of loving people, tuning out what’s not for me.”

Much Love and Light ❤️✨

Sofia Lena 😊

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