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Hi guys 🙂 in this wellness article, I will focus on the theme comparing yourself with others.

Trigger Warning: if you are struggling with your own personal issues and feel triggered (negatively) by this topic, by some informations I will share with you, do not feel the pressure to read this blog post, I understand it (that it can be challenging❤️…) so, it’s up to you 🙂 ❤️❤️

I’m going to start this argument with this familiar quote:

“Comparison Is The Thief Of Joy”

As Theodore Roosevelt says:“Comparison is the thiev of joy”, I can, in fact, only agree with him! 🙂

I believe that comparing yourself to others can be damaging to your self-esteem, mental-health, it can become a toxic pattern, which with time, can make you feel really bad with your own self, or at least that has been my case. What about you? ❤️

Examples Of Negative Social Comparisons

“She receives higher marks than I do.” “This professor has told these students that they are doing better than others, in this specific academic area, she didn’t mention me, so I am a failure, I have to do better…” “This person is better than me in many ways.”

I stop making examples because it’s not healthy…

These sentences which I just mentioned, are some examples of what it means to compare yourself with others (it depends, some people do not compare so much, others more…).

Comparison does not lead you anywhere, in fact this bad habit can lead you to disappointment, mental-health problems and etc.

Trying for many years to achieve perfection (in school)

Throughout my life, especially when it came to school, I struggled really hard not to compare myself with others. As my previous therapist has also acknowledged me, more than once, I befriended since primary school with girls who constantly received higher marks than I did. I have specific learning disorders and it was really hard for me to accept it. I tried to be as many times as possible, at the same level as the other ones so I could be prouder with myself, so I would feel “accepted” by others, I felt out of place.

Comparing myself to others brought me lot of sadness in my life

Constant Comparison has also been the cause of my deep depression.

Like in high-school, after finishing school, there has been a life period, where I couldn’t stop comparing myself to some of my family members (for ex.), telling myself or to trusted ones: “If I would have been like her, you would love me more…” . It became a sort of vicious circle or more specifically with a psychological term an emotive loop. I was sabotaging myself, (I still can be hard on myself…remember it’s a journey❤️) I didn’t feel special in some way and that brought me lots of sadness.

During my recovery journey, I started slowly to embrace myself, recognize my own beauty and make it precious 🙂 in my own way ❤️.

Some tips along the way:

• Start by telling yourself over and over that there is no one like you! 🙂 I do it also as a way to raise my self-esteem!
• Keep a journal where you write down and underline your abilities and if you struggle in recognizing them, ask your therapist, a loved one, or generally speaking someone you trust, to help you figuring out what your stregths are! 🙂
• Having a personal journal is also a good strategy for me to take a look through my pages and see written the things which make me special from the other ones, especially if I’m having a bad day and so on!
• Therapy: if you are someone who is not happy with yourself, I would warmly recommend you to talk to a professional psychologist….

 I will end this article with these words 😊

WE ARE ALL UNIQUE & SPECIAL IN OUR OWN WAYS & THIS IS THE BEAUTY 🙂 !! Don’t you agree? 🙂 

Love and Lightness ❤️✨

Sofia Lena 😊

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