FeelingGoodWithSofy

Trigger warning: if you’re currently struggling with your own mental health, this article might be difficult to read. However, I’ve also added motivational insights to help you through your journey. The decision to keep reading is entirely yours! ❤️❤️

Many of us go through life—from when we are small children to young adults, and then to adulthood—without truly pondering on whether or not we’re are living a life that satisfies us and makes us happy, or if we are just going through the motions with no sense of optimism or willingness to change. Some years ago, I encountered a piece of writing that asked: “Are you alive, or are you just existing”? It struck me deeply; there is so much meaning in it. As someone who has battled and still battles depression in my daily life, this question sparked my interest.

Living vs. Existing: The Key Differences

• Living: First of all, living is not defined by constant excitement and joy. When you’re truly living, difficult things will still happen, but you may find yourself being less affected by life’s setbacks. Living means taking the reins, doing your best to bring your dreams to life, and being willing to soar even when you don’t know the outcome. You don’t need grand gestures to be alive; rather, it’s about how you feel within and how you treat yourself—honouring both your values and your struggles. Most of all, living happens in the here and now. Even if it’s not your best moment, you find ways to carry yourself a little lighter.

• Existing: On the other hand, existing is characterized by a sense of deep heaviness and hopelessness within. Instead of taking control of your life, you become the one sitting in the passenger’s seat, letting someone else decide what’s next for you. You carry a weight within yourself throughout the course of your life journey, often without truly being aware of it. There are significant reasons why one “stops living,” which could include the onset of a mental illness, losing someone dear, or other life-altering events. When someone only exists, they don’t do it on purpose; they may be simply stuck and unable to carry on.

Sharing Bits of My Story… ❤️

As I mentioned earlier, this theme would not have sparked my interest, if I haden’t seen it written on a wall in my surroundings. I honestly think it’s one of the most intricate and important questions I’ve ever been faced with. As far as I’m concerned, this piece of writing struck me deeply because I have been facing a mental illness daily since a young age. I can say now that there were many times in my life when I was just existing, and it’s something that, unfortunately, still sticks with me.

I truly acknowledge how hard it is to start living more openly, especially when you don’t have the energy or the willingness to carry on—especially when you have something that hinders your growth. What I do is try my best to stay mindful, paying attention to the small daily glimpses of light that warm my soul. I also try to remind myself that I am on a long, healing journey and that it’s okay if I don’t feel alive yet; things take time. ❤️

Be Kind to Yourself ❤️

Whether you feel you’re thriving and living your best life, or—on the contrary—you feel behind and are barely hanging on, remember that healing isn’t linear. Some days will be better than others. Even if you feel stuck and every day feels the same—heavy and painful—don’t give up. Never. Over time, and perhaps with the help of a professional, learn to be self-compassionate and patient with yourself. Use mindfulness as a healthy strategy to slow down in moments of distress. Don’t rush; it’s already more than enough that you are here. ❤️

Much Love and Light ❤️✨

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