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Hello, and welcome back to Feeling Good with Sofy! 🙂

Today, I’m diving into an important topic that is so often misunderstood—the truth that shyness and weakness are not the same thing.

What Shyness Really Is (And Isn’t)

To better understand why shyness isn’t a weakness, let’s first clear up some common rumors and look at what shyness actually is—and isn’t!

It Isn’t…

• Something to fix: being shy is a personality trait—something you’re born with. People may believe that shy people need a “push” to start a conversation, for example, but the reality is that it’s simply not in their nature to be extroverted.

• A lack of self-esteem: you can be shy in new environments and still be confident in your own skin. Shyness is not a character flaw; it’s an emotional state characterized by feelings of nervousness, awkwardness and discomfort, particularly in new situations and around new people.

• Arrogance: it’s definitely not arrogance. Some think shy individuals are “stuck-up” or don’t want to talk, but the truth is they would like to connect; they simple are more cautious.

It Is…

• Internal Processing: shy people are usually deep thinkers; they take their time to process conversations before they contribute their own thoughts.

• Listening more: a shy person often prefers listening to others rather than being the one talking.

• Social caution and sensitivity to surroundings: it’s actually a mental strength—your brain is simply observing and processing the environment before you decide to dive in.

Shyness, A Superpower!

Once we stop seeing shyness as a barrier, we can start viewing it for what it really is: a quiet strength!

• In a world that often rewards the loudest voice, being someone who takes time to observe things deeply, who listens without interrupting, and who thinks before speaking is a unique, valuable gift!

• In fact, when you are born with this quiet strength, you see things from a different perspective—in a more careful way, I like to say. You can be a better friend because you listen without judging and have more empathy. You might not give an answer straight away because you meditate upon it before giving your response.

• Shy individuals might also find creative ways to express themselves, such as through social media, writing, painting or even singing.

Sharing a Bit of My Story…❤️

I’ve been very shy from a very young age, but I never really accepted it when I was younger. At school—especially in middle school and my first years of high school—many people would tell me (or others) how shy I was. They made me see it as a flaw rather than a quality.

It has been also harder to accept myself because I struggled with depression and anxiety even back then, which only made things feel worse.

It wasn’t until a few years ago that I started to embrace my shyness.

An episode occurred in middle school…

I’ve always hated group work; it made me feel uneasy. I hated having to come up with ideas for a new presention and then having to speak in front of the entire class.

After a work-group presentation, happened in middle school, one of the girls I had worked with said to the entire classroom and to the professor: “Oh, poor Sofia, she’s the one who spoke the least in this presentation…”. I didn’t say nothing afterward, but inside I felt so ashamed and small.

Some Reflections…

Reflecting on those years, I’m realizing that my silence wasn’t a problem to be solved; those people just didn’t have the tools to understand my quiet strength. Take the presentation I just mentioned: that girl had no real clue what it meant to be shy, and she didn’t think before speaking. I felt judged by her unkind comment, and it hurt. She was an extrovert and I was an introvert; we simply didn’t understant each other.

Embrace Your Shyness!

If you are shy and have ever received negative comments about it, you’re not alone. There are many extroverted people who don’t fully understand the concept of being shy, but that’s simply because it’s not in their nature; they may not have much experience talking to quieter people. Usually, those who are more shy tend to bond with other shy people, but that also depends from person to person.

Embracing your shyness means accepting the way you are without making a big deal of it. You have a special gift—honour it! 🙂 It may take time, especially if you have been judged in the past, so you could work with a therapist to learn to be kinder to yourself regarding your shyneness. Try writing down your ‘shy qualities’ in a diary or journal to help you see your own worth.❤️

Your Shyness Means Strength And Love!❤️

Much Love and Light ❤️✨

Sofia Lena 😊

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