Having someone you can truly count on isn’t just nice to have—it is vital for your mental wellbeing. Keeping everything bottled up inside creates a heavy, painful weight over time. I know this firsthand: there were years when I couldn’t bring myself to trust anyone, not even my previous therapist. Suffering in silence took a heavy toll on my mental wellbeing. Over the years, after getting hurt repeatedly, I struggled to let people in. In recent years, I have slowly become better at trusting the right people. Trust isn’t something you build overnight; many times it’s a slow journey, one with highs and lows.
Self-Trust
Developing self-trust is a process shaped by life experiences—the good and the bad—as well as the people you choose to surround yourself with beyond your family. It is a step-by-step journey. When you trust yourself fully, it becomes much easier to trust other people’s intentions toward you. While that isn’t always easy, a healthy level of self-esteem allows you to interact with others in a more natural and confident way.
On the other hand, when you lack faith in yourself, it can become much harder to let people in. Even when you reach out to someone you trust for help, fear and anxiety can instantly creep in, stopping you from accepting the helping hand you need to move forward; There are so many of us who struggle daily with self-trust—it’s not something new, but know there is help out there. ❤️
A Part of My Journey
Just like others, I’m learning to trust more, even if I don’t always feel at ease—it’s a non-linear path for me. There are reasons behind this insecurity: I was heavily bullied in school, especially in high school, where my peers didn’t have my best interests at heart. Secondly, I had a hard time trusting my previous therapist—she wasn’t as professional as my current psychologist ❤️—so there was no good communication among my parents her, and me. Throughout the years, shame and the fear of being judged kept me from telling the raw truth.
It’s not easy to just begin trusting people when you have, like me, a history of bullying. My depression and anxiety don’t make things easier; they make them more complicated. With that said, I’m doing my best. ❤️I recently started bonding with animals, and that gives me trust—maybe a different trust than trust in humans, but it’s still trust, and it is unique and beautiful. 🙂
Embrace the Process
Give yourself time and embrace all those steps along the way. If you feel insecure about starting a relationship or a friendship with someone, ask someone trusted for advice, and try to trust yourself and your intuition more. Learning to trust someone again can be difficult, but don’t give up—especially if that person is important to you.
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